Bullying as a topic is currently trending owing to the Abuja school saga. As the Yoruba people say, Ẹrú kan nií mú’ni bú igba ẹrú / It’s one slave action who will cause or bring opprobrium for two hundred others to be reproved, meaning an indiscretion by one, invariably smears all. Bullying is a widespread act that has been existing for a long time. Bullying happens in school, at home, or in any other setting. It can have a long-lasting effect on children’s mental and emotional well-being. As a parent or guardian, it’s essential to be aware of the signs that your child may be experiencing bullying. Although a child being bullied might not want to speak up due to one reason or the other, as parents and guardians, you should be able to know when your child is in danger.
This article reveals 5 signs to watch out for in a child that can be a pointer to bullying:
1. Physical symptoms: Bullying can manifest in physical symptoms such as unexplained bruises, cuts, or other injuries. Your child may also come home often, complaining of frequent headaches or stomach aches, especially before leaving for school or when back from school. These bruises, injuries, and other symptoms may be a result of bullying. It is left for you as a parent or guardian to investigate if these physical symptoms occur more than once.
2. Changes in Behaviour: One of the most obvious that your child is being bullied is a sudden behaviour change. If your child suddenly or gradually becomes withdrawn, anxious, or exhibits mood swings at home, it could be a red flag that something is amiss at school. Pay attention to any reluctance your child may have about going to school or participating in activities they once enjoyed. Special attention should be paid to children who were once lively at home but became withdrawn all of a sudden.
3. Academic Decline: Most children being bullied experience a decline in academic performance. If your child’s grades suddenly drop, or they begin to struggle with schoolwork, it may be a sign that they are being bullied. Bullied children may have difficulty concentrating in class due to constant worry or fear of encountering their bully.
4. Emotional Outbursts: Children who are bullied in school may exhibit emotional outbursts such as anger, frustration, or fearfulness at home. These outbursts may occur suddenly out of nowhere and can be a result of the emotional turmoil caused by bullying. If your child displays sudden changes in mood or behaviour, take the time to talk to them and uncover the underlying cause.
5. Withdrawal: Bullied children often withdraw from activities and social interactions with friends, peers, and families. They usually isolate themselves from their peers due to the fear of being bullied. If your child suddenly stops spending time with friends or avoids social situations altogether, it could be a sign that they are experiencing bullying. Pay attention to any changes in your child’s social circle and be proactive in addressing any issues that may arise.
As a parent, it’s important to take action if you suspect that your child is being bullied. Here are some steps you can take to support your child:
Get close and listen: Take time to get closer to your child during this period and make them open up more to you. Listen to your child’s concerns without judgment. If Your child opens up about being bullied in school, reach out to your child’s teacher or school authority to discuss the situation. Most schools have protocols in place to address bullying and can work with you to develop a plan to ensure your child’s safety. In the worst-case scenario, you can take your child out of that school to ensure they are safe.
Lastly, always encourage your child to speak up, irrespective of the situation. This will help them build confidence and walk up to counsellors when being bullied.
